Part 2: Not All Friendships Are the Same
The childhood friendship — the neighbor, the walkie-talkies, the bamboo — cost me nothing Jewish. The wrong lesson to draw is “non-Jewish friendships are fine.” The right one is narrower: that particular kind of friendship was fine. “Non-Jewish friend” is not one thing. It names several structurally different situations that get lumped under a single phrase, and the lumping is exactly where the bad thinking happens. A parent who has decided the question in the abstract — for it or against it — has already made the mistake. The situations differ enough that they deserve different answers. ...